A friend of mine asked the same question. Do we really fall out of love?
In my last blog I said that Love is a decision. It's not just a feeling, but a decision, a promise, a commitment to be with your partner through thick or thin. So why do we experience or say this falling out of love thing?
Normally we start with falling in love. We don't notice it but we suddenly feel that we like a person. Then gradually we now decide if we want to pursue that feeling of elation. But what if we get to the point of exhaustion from the pressures of being in a romantic relationship? Can we say that we have fallen out of love for our partners? I say yes partly, we may feel less intensity of love, less overwhelmed, less feeling of elation for our partners. Since love is one part feeling and the other part is decision.
I agree partly with the expression of falling out of love, but it is a matter of choice. I said before that love is not just a feeling but partly you also decide on love itself. But whatever we have decided on will be executed in action.
Life is all about making choices. We take risks when we choose. It is a choice when we decide on the feeling of falling out of love. But does falling out of love meaning hating the person? I suggest you evaluate yourself if you are not sure whether you have fallen out of love or just overwhelmed with the pressures of your current situation.
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uhhhmmm i need an interpreter right now..please provide one or two or maybe three?? =P
ReplyDeleteI agree that falling in and out of love is a decision , but there are two different beggining of "Love". first is the so called love at first sight, although it may also be properly called attraction at first sight, spontaneously and unconsciously you begin to develop and decide this feeling of love.
ReplyDeleteThe second one is a love that develops through time, this is where the decision part is greater than the attraction type of loving. Consciously you decide on loving the person because of His/Her Characteristics that you did not see at first. This where the scond type of love deepens.
Very well said. I agree with you. In a relationship there are episodes that movies always
ReplyDeletecaptures. You met this new interesting person. You made friends with him and share something
special. Now you play the Love Game. Everyday your heart pounds everytime you see him. Your
heart pitched you and whisper...
Hey Girl you got a crush on him. Then you wait if he feels tht same way too. Your mind keeps
on reminding you "Take it slow" but your heart shouted "He smiled at you" and you fall in
love Him.
Falling In Love. What a great feeling! A reminder that we are Human. We long for someone to
touch us, to love us, to show us how it feels to be loved. That is what is great about
Falling In Love. Heart pounting, Intense feeling So much drama. Now you are one with him.
You and him together. Promised to love each other. To grow old each other. But after more
than 10yrs what happend?
After more than a decade of being together you lost track of time because both of you are
too busy building a secured family. Always afair to that something might happend. Constantly
working, attending functions and still you never forget your special dates. You are not
HUMAN! LOL :) almost perfect.
Falling out of Love after falling in love. Your lives became a big dance routine. We could
see you happy but are you really not. That's where you started falling out of love.
Because you decided not to fall in love. You tought that because its getting boring you're
falling out of love. That wrong. You just need to find a New Hobby. Never stop doing the
things you love. Spend quality time with yourself ALONE. If you're married with kids you
don't need to feel left out from the singles club. You can still have fun with them as long
as you know ur bounderies.
Falling out of Love is a decision you choose. MSha once asked me "Bago mo ba pinakasalan si
wilf ganyan na ba sya?" I replied "Yes" She said something that gave me a big smack on the
head. She added "Sorry pinakasalan mo sya ganyan na sya so you have to deal with it" Kainis
to hear but she is right. I married a person that sometimes really irritates me. We had Big
fights that sometime gave me reason to question yourself...Am I starting to hate him? Am
falling out of Love? The answer for me is NO. I fell in love with my husband 5yrs ago
knowing that he is sometime irratating. Knowing that he has sort comings. Know that if ever
I have this kind of feeling I could go back and say to myself "Fall in love with him again"
Do the sweet things you always do to him. Destiny has done his part for introducing him to
you and Fate already gave her best when you decided to get married. Now is your turn to give
them a hand with this LOvE. All you need to choose is to LOVE. TO FALL IN LOVE.
Why do people smile when no one’s smiling? Its coz their thinking of someone they’re loving
Keep on believing we are meant to me and Nothing’s stopping you and me from going to heaven.
The Sweetest love.
Wow!! I am overwhelmed with the thoughts of some of you.. It inspires me to write more. =D
ReplyDeletehehehe I was sleeping when you asked to visit your blog. After reading all the entries I was moved to write my thoughts pagkatapos di na ako nakatulog. Can't wait for your next entry. Misscha Bhek!
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Pwede bang paedit na lang I was half asleep ang awake when I wrote that entry so there are lot of wrong spellings and setences. Ikaw na bahala magedit. Go!
pucca.. It's ok dear. I am really glad that my blog has inspired you to write what you feel. now i can say to myself, "mission accomplished" =D
ReplyDeleteI will partly agree with what you have said that love is a decision. When I was looking for a man to be with me for the rest of my life, I had set standards. I said, I want to be with a man who is responsible, financially stable and good-looking. I might say a Prince Charming or Mr. Right. Because of that, I have almost neglected a man who almost wants to give everything to make me happy and love me for the rest of his life. I was about to lose him as he almost wants to give up.I was not paying attention to him because he is not the one I'm dreaming of. Until one day, something strange happened. It was like I was put under spell, I just felt something I can't even explain. I suddenly realised, I love him and he is the one I want to be with. Be my partner and be the father of my children. Be with me even if my hair turned grey... It was not a decision, it just happened. And because I followed my heart and not what my head is dictating on me, I found happiness. A boundless happiness, that even if I die and live again, I won't have a second thought to choose him.
ReplyDeletelovely, a very nice name.. your love story is trully lovely! I am very happy to hear that you have answered love's calling. Be in love always. =D
ReplyDeleteYes, it was indeed. There is a verse in a bible saying that a good husband or wife comes from Father. When I was starting to fall on him, I asked guidance and help. And it's perfectly fine. I have a beautiful family that I have been dreaming of. A beautiful and wonderful family.
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